Maybe this is TMI, but…
Back in college, my boyfriend and I would play a game where we’d sit on the sofa or lie in bed and…just look at each other. We weren’t “allowed” to kiss or touch, we just had to look into each other’s eyes for as long as possible before we couldn’t stand it anymore. When one person finally made a move, the other person was declared the winner.
Have you done this? At first, maybe you laugh and feel dumb. But as time goes on, you get into this dreamlike state where you feel really connected to your partner, and then it starts to feel electrified and every tiny breath or move the other person makes feel so intense, and finally you can’t wait any longer to grab them. I’ve done it since with other partners, and it’s always wildly sexy.
“Forget sex, forget nudity,” writes Sophie Gilbert in her Atlantic article The Death of the Sex Scene. “The history of film and television suggests that, sometimes, the sexiest thing two people can do on-screen is simply look at each other — look, for a prolonged period of time.” She points out that you have to have chemistry with the person — it obviously doesn’t work with just anyone — but it can be very fun if you’re in the mood.
They did this in Dirty Dancing, too.
This post makes me laugh in part because it’s so simple — it reminds me of when I wrote a post about candles in which I teased myself for being like “guys, have you heard of candles???” but sometimes the simplest things are the most fun. So, I stand by this!
What are you finding sexy these days? What are your random turn ons? What about sexy books? xoxo
P.S. More fun things, plus a fun movie night idea and how to keep the sparks flying. Also, on Big Salad: how to talk dirty, if you want to.
